Call Me

20 Nov

NaNoWriNO Day 20

Topic: Why don’t men call when they say they’re going to


I feel like I’ve talked a lot about relationship stuff during NaNoWriNO. I’ve definitely had fun with it, and am happy for all of the suggestions I get. Still, it’s like calling your dentist and asking her to come fix the electrical wiring in your house. It’s best to leave that to a professional.

Women have been frustrated for years (decades? centuries?) over the “ask for my number and never call” bit that men do. You’re flirting with a guy at the bar, he says he’ll be in touch, and then you never hear from him. “Why?”

The better question is, “Who cares?” I only date good guys, and that’s not an accident. I don’t waste my time on guys who play mind games, use the words “fun” and “casual” when talking about relationships, and don’t call when they say they’re going to. If that’s their version of impressing me, imagine how they’ll be when we’re comfortable.

If you’ve given your number to a guy, and he hasn’t called yet, here are some things you can do to occupy your time:

Watch a little educational programming

Try to figure out what he hell this girl is talking about

Tend your garden

Help me figure out how I can get my hands on this

Go out and get some exercise

Find out what possessed Matthew Gray Gubler to take these pictures

Settle in and read a good book

Or, my favorite…



Thanks to my girl Wendy from Wendy’s Work for suggesting this topic.

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82 Responses to “Call Me”

  1. isawbobdylaninaspeedo 11/22/2012 at 8:46 am #

    So right ON. And I am with you on the eff them part. They don’t call I DON’T CARE. I am certainly NOT calling them. sheesh. It actually just ends up saving you time. There is a reason behind it. I recently had a man call, whom I gave my number to, and he said, ‘I told you I would call you and I didn’t want to be that guy.’ It was super sweet. So he has accumulated some points there FOR SURE. High fives sister!!!

    • Jen and Tonic 11/23/2012 at 12:03 pm #

      YES! I love when guys break the mold. One of the reasons I liked my ex-boyfriend so much right away was because he took my number and called me the next day. He said, “I couldn’t wait to talk to you.” That’s a real man right there.

  2. GiggsMcGill Jill 11/21/2012 at 9:38 pm #

    All great advice! Also, I laughed hysterically at the pictures of Matthew Gray Gubler because I’m watching Criminal Minds right now and it makes it hard to take him seriously. :p

    And, I think I spent too much of my life on Farmville years ago >.<

    • Jen and Tonic 11/23/2012 at 12:02 pm #

      The fact that you were watching that while looking at the pictures made me laugh so hard. Internet win!

      I’ll forgive you for the Farmville thing. Just this once.

      • GiggsMcGill Jill 11/24/2012 at 11:49 am #

        Phew! I was worried! And I was a good Farmviller – I never did those annoying invites to friends (because I knew they didn’t want to play and I was embarrassed that I played as it was…)

  3. Lyssapants 11/20/2012 at 8:51 pm #

    That teapot made me squirt tea out my nose…and hopefully in the direction of this man who never called you when he said he would.

    • Jen and Tonic 11/23/2012 at 12:01 pm #

      He finally called me and told me to stop having my friends squirt nose tea at him!


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