I turned 34 on Thanksgiving which means that I spent a lot of time reflecting on my life, the solution to the gun problem in America, and what it means to be human. Just kidding! I ate too much turkey, and did a number of regrettable dances in front of my family members.
Another passing year can only mean more wrinkles, more cases of not giving any fucks, and more time spent contemplating my strong eyebrow game. It also means it’s time for my birthday lessons post!
As some of you may remember, I thoughtfully stole this idea from a friend of mine. I didn’t ask him permission because anything you put on the public domain is up for grabs, and I was “inspired,” and [insert other excuses that will prevent him from suing me] (he’s a lawyer).
Without further ado, here are a few tidbits I’ve picked up in my 34 years of life.
- Keep your friends close, and your enemies as far from you as humanly possible.
- There’s no such thing as “the right person at the wrong time.”
- The only people who survive internet dating are hopeless romantics and masochists.
- Sometimes the strongest foundations are built upon a place where everything burned to the ground.
- Feeling sorry for yourself is like junk food- it’s okay in moderation.
- Never feel regretful if you gave of yourself and were taken advantage of. Purity of heart is meaningful no matter what the outcome.
- While being single feels lonely at times, you’re actually closer to a meaningful and loving connection than someone stuck in a bad relationship.
- Be cautious of people who claim they hate drama. They’re usually the most dramatic.
- Your health (emotionally, physically, mentally, spiritually) is the backbone of your existence. Stay healthy.
- “There’s no such thing as perfection, only perfect effort. -Mark Divine
- Don’t worry if you’re not on the same path as everyone else. You ‘re just taking the scenic route.
- Forgive without receiving an apology…
- …but don’t keep people in your life who don’t respect you enough to give you an apology.
- Don’t wish for someone else’s life. You don’t know what you’d have to give up or change to have it.
- A genuine smile is a person’s best accessory.
- Be mindful of the way someone speaks about others when they aren’t around. It’s likely how they speak about you when you’re not around.
- Nobody’s opinion of you matters more than your own.
- Don’t hoard your knowledge and expertise. By sharing what you have, you open the door for others to share what they have. Everybody wins.
- Nobody knows what the hell they’re doing. We’re all on our own personal runaway trains.
- With our culture of distraction, there are fewer gifts more meaningful than the gift of your undivided attention.
- If you can’t enjoy your success you aren’t really successful.
- There is no greater woman than one who is an ally to other women.
- Letting go of expectation allows you to see what is rather than what could have been.
- You’ll never regret a single cent or a single second given charitably.
- Knowing why you do the things you do is just as important as what you do.
- Honesty is important, especially when it comes to self-honesty.
- Worrying is a habit worth breaking.
- Failure will haunt you less than a “what if?”
- Educate yourself. It doesn’t have to be in an institution, but you should strive to know as much about the world as possible.
- If you get knocked down, get back up. Repeat as necessary.
- If you have a negative reaction to someone, ask yourself why. Sometimes we hate in others what we see in ourselves.
- Always mind your manners. Always.
- Don’t argue to be right or to prove a point. Argue for clarity and resolution.
- The life you’re living is material for your eulogy.
And there you have it, another year in the books. If you’re jonesing for even more wisdom, you can read my previous attempt at this, or head over to Gillian’s blog where she has done her own life lessons posts.
Until next year…